Straight up, if someone had talked to me about self-compassion strategies, I would have thought, nope, too weird.
But then I spent years struggling to deal with my big emotions, I spent years not feeling good enough, and I was finally open to listening to something that might work.
One particular homeschool day I was especially frustrated.
What could have been frustrating me?
- A child was being unkind, again.
- Kids were fighting, again.
- Nobody wanted to do the thing I had so lovingly planned for them.
- The house was a mess.
- I was feeling unsupported and disconnected from others.
Oh, ya know, a couple things might have been going on.
And I really wanted to text my husband.
But since he wasn't responding to his texts (he happens to work in emerg, so what he was doing was likely more emergent than his wife losing her stuff at home), I had to figure out what else to do!
Call my friend, I thought. Turns out, she was too busy to respond too.
Well, what is a homeschool mama to do?
Head on over to my bathroom mirror and talk to myself.
Weird, but effective.
I just needed someone to witness my frustration and sadness.
To look into my eyes and say, "Hey, you're having a moment, sometimes homeschooling is hard, but you've got this."
So that is what I did.
And to my utter surprise, it was therapeutic, it worked!